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If its unconditional…

I’ve never believed in unconditional love. People tend to leave when the party is no longer fun, when the sunny skies turn to rain, when suddenly the one person who always made everyone else smile is the one breaking down.

Then time passed. I made mistakes and learned from them.

And I fell in love so deeply that I realized it was no longer a myth… Love blossomed naturally with a new, self-less devotion to my lover’s wellbeing. I began to understand more and paid more attention to the “causes and effects” of things…

If I do this or say something in this way it will undoubtedly lead to THIS. But I want THAT. So let me rework my approach.

In the past, I never cared enough to tame my ego and my selfish wants.

However, over time I learned that, in fact, by loving unconditionally, I relearned my SELF. Suddenly life became more clear, simple, and straightforward… I knew in my heart what I should or should not do; which lines I should or should not cross. Finally, I felt grounded enough to focus on being better. I was reborn in this love… I was reflecting all of the special moments, the charming secrets, the unwavering strength and survival that was revealed in every layer that my lover shared. I was reflecting everything back into us…and love became real- it birthed a new life.

If its unconditional love that you’ve learned…allow it to teach you the power of freedom; freedom to let yourself go and to know you’ll come back more full than you ever imagined; no matter the outcome.

Attaching yourself to a desired result is naive; immature, even. But when you are in it for the journey- not the destination- you have to inherently commit to enjoying the ride…

Be a courageous lover.

Life is too short to fear.

Have discernment on your mind but be a risk taker in your heart.

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HaveNoFear.

Do not lose faith in humanity.

 Humanity is an ocean; when a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the whole ocean does not become dirty.
-Gandhi

The Truth May Be Ugly…

… But…

I’d rather choke on facts than suffocate on assumptions.

Being Human | Impermanence

We are not infallible, unflappable, or innocently without ego. We are not pure, perfect, or naively unselfish (however we may try to convince ourselves otherwise).

But really, this should be ok.

If we were born without err and error then we’d be utterly boring, indecently bland, and tragically lacking purpose. After all, perfection is not something we often try to pervert or transform.

As humans… we are constantly churning and flowing and falling victim to bad decisions or burning our hands on hot stoves. Perhaps, whats so beautiful about being human is the sheer and undeniable fact… that we change. We are impermanent.

So then why do we, throughout our lives, become so quick to criticize and deter one another? Is it competition? Is it envy? Is it defensive mediocrity or the realization of false confidence? The process of realization is stellar, but sometimes the next step and true test is overcoming denial.

Once denial has been conquered, then, we have to prepare ourselves for judgment and negativity in media, within families, friends and foes alike. And I wonder why… when really, we are all imperfect. We are all impermanent; and therefore equipped to constantly change and transform and morph into however many stages and phases and fads that our individual lives see fit. You have your own path, and so do I.

Is it possible for us… to actually embrace one another fully? Imagine how lovely it could be to fear less… and to trust that your darkest secrets may actually be shared experiences- space to grow and outgrow. Whatever it is that you try to forget about your self, your past, your present, or your future… what if you could be accepted and loved EVEN WHEN all is out in the open?

Non-judgment is a skill… its a learned habit and a practice…

I can’t help but be saddened by the burdens we all place on ourselves… too often.. and for too long…

guilt. shame. regret. embarrassment. remorse. terror. jealousy. manipulation. self-sabotage.

I have yet to meet a single person who has never experienced one of the abovementioned… and yet we all seem so critical of one another as if we each haven’t truly lived through these things.

What makes us human is our impermanence. What makes us impermanent is that we are meant to change, transform, metamorphosize… at our own pace and on our own time.

I’m going to make it a priority to focus less on what COULD BE and more on WHAT IS.

By being present and aware, I can hopefully be reminded of my own human imperfections and therefore allow myself and anyone else a real chance…and unrestricted freedom… to experience life, make mistakes, enjoy guilty pleasures, and maybe learn to love; to fail, but try again, and follow their hearts even if it seems unreasonable; to take risks, to experience extremes and naturally learn to value refinement or to loathe conformity and live as a vagabond… we all deserve this space to just freely, be.

… and we all deserve at any moment, to have the support and unconditional love of those around us; as we make up our own minds to change with conscious endeavor… or… allow time to slowly unravel “change” for us.

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