We are not infallible, unflappable, or innocently without ego. We are not pure, perfect, or naively unselfish (however we may try to convince ourselves otherwise).
But really, this should be ok.
If we were born without err and error then we’d be utterly boring, indecently bland, and tragically lacking purpose. After all, perfection is not something we often try to pervert or transform.
As humans… we are constantly churning and flowing and falling victim to bad decisions or burning our hands on hot stoves. Perhaps, whats so beautiful about being human is the sheer and undeniable fact… that we change. We are impermanent.
So then why do we, throughout our lives, become so quick to criticize and deter one another? Is it competition? Is it envy? Is it defensive mediocrity or the realization of false confidence? The process of realization is stellar, but sometimes the next step and true test is overcoming denial.
Once denial has been conquered, then, we have to prepare ourselves for judgment and negativity in media, within families, friends and foes alike. And I wonder why… when really, we are all imperfect. We are all impermanent; and therefore equipped to constantly change and transform and morph into however many stages and phases and fads that our individual lives see fit. You have your own path, and so do I.
Is it possible for us… to actually embrace one another fully? Imagine how lovely it could be to fear less… and to trust that your darkest secrets may actually be shared experiences- space to grow and outgrow. Whatever it is that you try to forget about your self, your past, your present, or your future… what if you could be accepted and loved EVEN WHEN all is out in the open?
Non-judgment is a skill… its a learned habit and a practice…
I can’t help but be saddened by the burdens we all place on ourselves… too often.. and for too long…
guilt. shame. regret. embarrassment. remorse. terror. jealousy. manipulation. self-sabotage.
I have yet to meet a single person who has never experienced one of the abovementioned… and yet we all seem so critical of one another as if we each haven’t truly lived through these things.
What makes us human is our impermanence. What makes us impermanent is that we are meant to change, transform, metamorphosize… at our own pace and on our own time.
I’m going to make it a priority to focus less on what COULD BE and more on WHAT IS.
By being present and aware, I can hopefully be reminded of my own human imperfections and therefore allow myself and anyone else a real chance…and unrestricted freedom… to experience life, make mistakes, enjoy guilty pleasures, and maybe learn to love; to fail, but try again, and follow their hearts even if it seems unreasonable; to take risks, to experience extremes and naturally learn to value refinement or to loathe conformity and live as a vagabond… we all deserve this space to just freely, be.
… and we all deserve at any moment, to have the support and unconditional love of those around us; as we make up our own minds to change with conscious endeavor… or… allow time to slowly unravel “change” for us.